So here we go, with five thoughts about the word prompt “red.” I found this to be a really, really hard one, but I finally settled on some strategies for when you’re seeing red. So without further ado, here are my “Five Things To Do When You’re Seeing Red,” and you even get a bonus!
1. Take a deep breath. Some people try to count forwards or backwards from ten, but I usually find that closing my eyes and breathing helps more than counting.
2. Close your eyes and picture a big red balloon full of your anger and then count down from five while picturing the air slowly leaving the balloon.
3. Sing. It’s hard to stay angry while you’re singing. My mom used to make my sister and me sing to each other when we were angry. We tried hard, but within minutes, we were always giggling. Now that I’m older, I don’t try to sing my angry words; I opt for silly, happy songs or worship songs.
[Random note: Aggie, a character in one of my favorite series by Chautona Havig, expresses many of her emotions including anger by singing old hymns, often without even realizing she’s doing it. It’s a really fun part of her character, and the songs she comes up with are often hilarious! Other characters in the books respond to this in really interesting ways, some positive and some negative. You can get the first book, Ready or Not, for free on Amazon if you’re interested. (That’s an affiliate link by the way.)]
4. Make a joke. If you can find the funny part of the situation, it often helps, and a good belly laugh is really good medicine.
5. Look for the bigger picture. Often, I’m irritated by something small and petty, and if I can see the larger goal, it helps a lot. Even just making myself imagine the consequences of losing my temper helps to diffuse it.
And, as a bonus, remember how much you’ve been forgiven of. This works on many levels. It is very true that forgiven people love much, but only as long as they remember that they are, in fact, forgiven people. It’s easy when I’m angry to feel like I could never do to anyone what has been done to me, but the fact is, I’m not perfect and I do, unfortunately, hurt people. I have in the past and I will in the future. Remembering this makes letting things go right now.a little easier.
I found this a really hard word to write about, but hopefully there’s something here that might be helpful to someone. How about you? What strategies do you use to calm down when you’re seeing red? How do you help your children? I can certainly use some new ideas, so please share away!!!!
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